a friend: someone joined to another by chosen affection, loyalty, or shared allegiance rather than by blood.
In the ancient world a friend was not a casual acquaintance. To be someone's friend was a recognized bond that often carried real obligations: friends were expected
- to share what they had
- to speak honestly to one another
- to stand by each other.
The same word could name a close personal companion, a political ally, a member of a ruler's inner circle, or anyone publicly identified with a particular person or cause.
This is why the word turns up at charged moments in the New Testament rather than in passing.
- It marks the disciples' new standing when Jesus stops calling them servants and calls them friends.
- It marks the accusation thrown at Jesus, that he is a friend of tax collectors and sinners.
- It marks the deadly pressure on Pilate, who could not release Jesus without ceasing to be a friend of Caesar.
- And it draws the sharpest line of all in James: a person is either a friend of God or a friend of the world, and cannot be both.
Running underneath every use is the same core idea: a chosen bond of loyalty and affection that ties two parties together and shows where a person's allegiance lies. Whether the friend is an intimate, an official, or God himself, to name someone a friend is to say something about who belongs with whom.
Nuances
What kind of friendship Jesus establishes when he calls the disciples his friends in John 15:13-15.
- majorityA reworking of the classical ideal of friendship together with the Hebrew picture of Abraham and Moses as friends of God: a bond marked by open sharing and self-giving that Jesus himself initiates rather than negotiates between equals.; Raymond E. Brown, The Gospel According to John XIII-XXI (AB 29A; Doubleday, 1970); Craig S. Keener, The Gospel of John: A Commentary (Baker Academic, 2003); Marianne Meye Thompson, John (NTL; Westminster John Knox, 2015)
- minorityMutual friendship on the classical ideal, a reciprocal bond between friends marked by frank, open speech.; Gail R. O'Day, "Jesus as Friend in the Gospel of John," Interpretation 58/2 (2004): 144-157; Klaus Scholtissek, In ihm sein und bleiben (HBS 21; Herder, 2000)
- minorityA patron's bond with his dependents: an unequal relationship of loyal subordination in which the greater one lays down his life for those under him.; Daniel K. Eng, "'I Call You Friends': Jesus as Patron in John 15," Themelios 46/1 (2021)