to rule: to hold and actively exercise authority over someone or something
At its heart this word names the exercise of authority, the actual wielding of power one person or thing holds over another. It is not the word for holding the title of king or taking a throne; that is a different verb (מלך). This one asks a different question: who is actually in charge, who is exercising the power. So the Bible uses it across the whole scale of rule, from kings governing nations and a steward running a household down to a person keeping command over their own impulses.
The word itself carries no moral color. The same verb describes a cruel foreign scepter, a wise ruler governing justly, and God caring for creation. There is a popular idea that this word means a soft, gentle kind of rule as against a harsher word for dominion (רדה), but that will not hold: one psalm uses this very verb for the God-given dominion that another key text assigns to that other word, so the two overlap freely. The tone of any given rule comes from its context and from who is doing the ruling, not from the word.
The senses below sort the occurrences by what is being ruled, because that is what changes the feel of the word. Governing a realm is not the same act as mastering an inner urge, yet both are this one verb: someone or something is held under another's authority.
Running through all of it is a single conviction. Every rule the Bible describes with this word, the sun and moon governing time, a steward over a house, Joseph over Egypt, a king over Israel, the promised ruler from Bethlehem, is delegated, derived, and accountable. God is the ultimate ruler, and the confession that anchors the whole range is that his kingdom rules over all.
Nuances
Whether the husband's rule in this verse describes a distortion brought about by sin or prescribes a lasting norm for marriage.
- majorityDescriptive: the rule is a painful consequence of the fall, a distortion of the mutuality that came before it, not a command.; Westermann, C., Genesis 1-11: A Commentary; Trible, P., God and the Rhetoric of Sexuality; Sarna, N. M., Genesis (JPS Torah Commentary)
- minorityPrescriptive: the words assign the husband authority to rule, read in light of the near-identical wording about mastering sin in the next chapter.; Foh, S. T., "What Is the Woman's Desire?", Westminster Theological Journal 37 (1975): 376-83; Grudem, W., Evangelical Feminism and Biblical Truth