quarreling: open conflict between people, the kind that gets started, spreads, and has to be shut down.
Almost every time this word appears, someone is either lighting a quarrel or putting one out. Proverbs uses it as the ordinary name for the trouble that breaks out between people, and it keeps circling the same two questions: who starts it, and what stops it.
- A hot-tempered man stirs up a quarrel, and so does a man who is quick to anger.
- A man of twisted speech scatters it from person to person.
- A greedy man, always wanting more, stirs it up as well.
- A patient person quiets it, and once the whispering gossip is gone it simply dies out.
Two pictures give the word its shape. Starting a quarrel is like opening a crack in a dam: once the water is out it will not be called back, so the moment to walk away is before the fight breaks open. And a quarrel needs fuel the way a fire needs wood, which is why removing the person who carries stories from house to house is enough to make it go quiet.
The word also stretches past private squabbles. Habakkuk names it beside violence and a paralyzed court as proof that a whole society has come apart. And it can be turned on a person: God sets Israel as the strife of its neighbors, and Jeremiah calls himself a man of strife to the entire country, meaning not that he enjoys fighting but that everyone around him ends up fighting with him. The closest neighbor word is the one for a dispute or a case brought against someone (רִיב), which names the disagreement itself; this word names the quarreling that surrounds it.