to be in or cause deep pain, chiefly the inner pain of grief and distress
This is the Bible's main word for deep inner pain. At its center is grief: the ache of loss, disappointment, or betrayal that settles in the heart. But the same word stretches in three directions that belong together.
- It can mean to feel that grief oneself, as when Jacob's sons burn with sorrow and anger, or when God himself is grieved to his heart.
- It can mean to inflict that grief on another, to wound, vex, or displease someone, most strikingly when Israel grieves God in the wilderness and grieves his Holy Spirit.
- It can even reach a physical injury, the hurt of a worker gashed by the stones he quarries.
What holds these together is that the pain is rarely just physical or just private. It is relational: grief over a broken bond, hurt that passes between people, and, remarkably, pain that people can cause God. Hebrew has other words for sorrow and hurt, such as כאב for feeling pain and אבל for open mourning, but this word carries the extra note of grief mixed with the sense that something has gone wrong.