a concession: something allowed out of understanding for a person's situation rather than required of them
The word is built from the ordinary Greek pieces for "with" and "judgment," and that picture explains it: a judgment made from alongside a person rather than over against them. In everyday Greek it named the room a person makes for someone else's limits:
- lenient judgment for someone who acted without knowing what they were doing
- excuse for a person who acted under real pressure and had little choice
- forbearance toward an aging parent whose understanding is failing
- a writer's request that readers bear with the roughness of his work
None of that is forgiveness as we now use the word, where an offender owns the wrong and is then pardoned. It is allowance, granted because the person could not help it.
Paul uses the word once, in advice to married couples. He has just told husband and wife not to withhold themselves from each other except by mutual agreement, for a set time, in order to give themselves to prayer. Then he adds that he says this by way of allowance and not by way of command. Most scholars take the allowance to cover exactly that temporary abstinence: he permits it, he does not require it. The remark belongs to a line Paul draws all through the chapter between what he passes on with the Lord's authority and what he offers as his own considered judgment (γνώμη).
The word sits close to "forgiveness" without being it. New Testament writers had it available and almost entirely left it alone. When they speak of God forgiving sin they reach instead for release and cancellation (ἄφεσις), and Paul himself prefers the picture of a free gift (χαρίζω). That is not a matter of style. This word makes room for what a person could not help, while the New Testament's forgiveness words deal with real guilt that has to be cancelled.
What Paul concedes rather than commands at 1 Corinthians 7:6, that is, the referent of "this" (τοῦτο).
- majorityThe temporary, mutually agreed abstinence of 7:5, which Paul permits but does not require. Verses 7:2 to 7:5 are imperatival, so they cannot be the thing he says he is not commanding, and the "except perhaps" of 7:5 already marks the abstinence as optional.; Gordon D. Fee, The First Epistle to the Corinthians, NICNT, at 1 Cor 7:6; C. K. Barrett, A Commentary on the First Epistle to the Corinthians, BNTC, at 1 Cor 7:6
- minorityMarriage and conjugal relations generally (7:2 to 7:5), tolerated as a remedy for lack of self-control. This older reading was reinforced by the Vulgate's secundum indulgentiam and by Chrysostom's presentation of Paul as accommodating human weakness throughout the chapter.; A. T. Robertson, Word Pictures in the New Testament, at 1 Cor 7:6; John Chrysostom, Homilies on 1 Corinthians, Homily 19
- minorityThe wish of 7:7 that all were unmarried as Paul is, so that "this" points forward rather than back. The reading depends on the Byzantine connective that critical editors of the Greek text do not accept.; David E. Garland, 1 Corinthians, BECNT, at 1 Cor 7:6