to kiss someone warmly: to greet, welcome, or honor a person with a kiss, sometimes given again and again
This is the everyday Greek verb for loving and liking (φιλέω) with a prefix attached that turns it toward the physical act and adds warmth to it: to kiss, and usually to kiss with feeling. Unlike the simple verb, it never means love in the abstract. In all six of its New Testament uses, someone's lips actually touch another person.
A kiss in that world was a public gesture with a public meaning, closer to a handshake or a hug than to romance. It greeted a friend or a teacher, welcomed a traveler home, sealed a farewell, and honored someone worth honoring. The scenes where this word appears all sit inside that range:
- Judas turns the customary greeting kiss into the signal that marks Jesus out
- a father runs to his returning son, throws his arms around him, and kisses him
- the elders at Miletus weep and kiss Paul as he leaves them for the last time
- a woman kisses Jesus' feet over and over while she washes them with her tears
The two scenes at Simon's table show what the one word can hold. Simon had not given Jesus even the ordinary kiss (φίλημα) that any host owed a guest, while the woman, from the moment Jesus came in, had not stopped kissing his feet. Kissing the feet rather than the cheek is the difference between greeting an equal and lowering yourself before someone greater, and this single verb does both jobs. That is why English can only say "kissed" and leave the scene to supply the rest.
Nuances
Disputed
Whether the prefixed form retains intensive force in New Testament Greek (to kiss fervently or repeatedly) or had become an ordinary equivalent of the simple verb φιλέω.
- contestedThe compound is intensive: it denotes an earnest, tender, or repeated kiss, and the evangelists select it deliberately over the simplex.; H. G. Liddell, R. Scott, and H. S. Jones, A Greek-English Lexicon, 9th ed. with revised supplement (LSJ; Oxford, 1996), s.v. καταφιλέω; Gustav Stählin, φιλέω κτλ., in Theological Dictionary of the New Testament, ed. G. Friedrich, trans. G. W. Bromiley, vol. 9 (Eerdmans, 1974), 113-171; R. T. France, The Gospel of Mark (New International Greek Testament Commentary; Eerdmans, 2002), on Mark 14:45
- contestedBy the Hellenistic period the prepositional prefix had largely lost its perfectivizing force, so the compound functions as a stylistic variant of the simplex and is properly glossed simply as to kiss.; Walter Bauer, A Greek-English Lexicon of the New Testament, 3rd ed., rev. F. W. Danker (BDAG; University of Chicago Press, 2000), s.v. καταφιλέω; J. P. Louw and E. A. Nida, Greek-English Lexicon of the New Testament Based on Semantic Domains (United Bible Societies, 1988), s.v. καταφιλέω; James Hope Moulton, A Grammar of New Testament Greek, vol. 1: Prolegomena, 3rd ed. (T. and T. Clark, 1908), 111-118